Dear Amy: “Sandy” and I am close friends of college. Despite living in separate states, our friend group has been close.
We have a group text chat, and sometimes meet together.
Recently, Sandy is undergoing a thick patch after a painful divorce.
She is a “impressive” on social media and is publicly sharing all her personal experiences about her mental health journey.
I feel disputed about inequality between my public sharing and lack of openness within the very safe place of our close-oriented group.
While I think social media is his chosen outlet, I do not understand why she would do this instead of believing in a group of people who really know her well.
I am very private and it looks strange when overseeing other people on social media.
Additionally, Sandy has not started any conversation with me in a long time.
I have very young children at home and a demanding work program. I often feel drought and I am unable to manage all this – although I refrain from publicly circulating these issues and only share these things within our friend group.
Should I reach Sandy and pay attention to its recent positions, how can I support him? If the answer is yes, how can I handle my disappointment on her choice?
– Unclear
Dear confused: Some people use social media basically to exclude their emotional dumps and publish every thought, emotion and latest food.
It may seem extremely unconscious – or even protesters – the way it is very sympathetic or commendable to the followers.
You don’t like it, but some people do it. Other social media users may be motivated to feel less alone by reaching the struggle of another person.
“Sandy” has found his outlet. She can find that her public openness enables her to be more present for her close private friends. She is venting for a crowd; As a result she is freeing real estate in your group chat.
You can be amazed by her choice, but strictly looking at her that none of you will get help. She is publicly sharing her frustrations and challenges on social media, while you are sharing with people reading this column.
Yes, reach Sandy to do private investigation, but do not accuse him of overhering.
She is broadcast using her favorite channels; You should use yourself.
Dear Amy: The second night I was talking to my husband about a small lie.
I said it is one thing to lie that I will not tolerate!
I will go very less crazy about truth than small lies.
During the conversation he threw another lie, which was easily revealed with his search history on his tablet. He invited me to do so and did not obviously thought that I could find out it because he felt that he had removed history on his phone.
It was not something about which I was worried about. After all, he is a man and I am not dumb.
When I caught him and called him out, he became defensive and did not give me any rest to work through it.
Now I am in a loss. I worry that if he can lie directly on my face, when do big lies begin?
– Lost in Idaho
Dear Lost: After getting caught in a lie, your husband finds it extremely unrealistic to expect you to relax from you. At that time, he is feeling too much sorrier for you. And perhaps you should feel sorry for that too.
Till that flat-out is arrogant, lying about small things is cowardly. Their lies show that they do not really trust you. He is afraid of your response, or is afraid to disappoint you. And yes, I am confident that when this ingredient, a little lie will give birth to big people.
You and your husband’s famous relationship researchers want to examine the latest book by Julie Schwartz Gotman and John Gotman: “Fight Wright: How to change the struggle in successful couples” (2024, Harmoni).
Dear Amy: Every time you try to answer a question about the use of the pot, you reveal how old you are and without thinking.
Marizuana is a medicinal herb, used for thousands of years. Now it is legal to use it, and so no one should have any problem with it.
– Happy pot user
Dear Happy: Those who are calm struggle with a very real impact who are trying to live with those who are not calm. It is always a drag to be a designated driver.
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